Even people who empathize a lot can still suffer from an empathy imbalance—greater empathy for people who look, think, and act like themselves (their ingroup) and reduced empathy for those who don’t (their outgroup). Research suggests that empathy imbalances can be a bigger problem for intergroup relations than empathy deficits. A promising response to social divisions may therefore involve doing something counterintuitive- lowering empathy for our ingroup and distancing from our own kind.